Stay at home vs Working mom- War of the MOMS!


There is much controversy surrounding the debate of a stay at home mom versus a mother that works. Which one is better for the child?

In my opinion neither trumps the other. I am however biased to one scenario more Than the next.

The life of a mother that works outside the home is very different than a mom who stays at home although both women’s priority are her children. The working mom spends most of her day out of the home making sure financially that her offspring is taken care. She also lends her emotional support and live as much as she can without physically being there. A stay at home mother is always there she sees it all she is able to give more of herself simply because her time is spent within the home. She has more time to to talk to the children she has more time to teach the children and she also gives them an indepth look into who she is as a person. A working mom strives to do these same things and she does in some ways it’s just that she has less time to do those same things which in turn can take away from what her children experience through her and with her. The working mom has many advantages if you can call it that. She has more financial freedom to support her children and her household, while a stay at home mom might not have those same freedoms. I think that most women would choose to be at home with their children if they could. But the way society is set up and the dynamics of her family structure she is forced to tak on the role of her husband and help provide. In turn who raises the children. Is the television their teachers or is it the internet but whoever raises her children in her absence. Is who wins a hand in their future. Though stay at home mothers may lack financial freedom at least she is given a chance to be present. Time is the one thing we can’t get back. It is expensive gift. Both the working mother and the stay at home mom have the same intentions and priorities when it comes to their kids..but both execute those intentions differently because of their circumstances.

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Love, Marriage and Motherhood: A Church Girl’s Perspective

I luh God, my husband and my baby girl; in that order. There is no questioning my love for all three. My world is God and Family. Sometimes, though, it can be challenging to juggle my responsibilities as a wife, mother, church leader and my full time job. Every morning I get up at 6am to get my daughter and husband ready to get out the door by 7:15am then get myself dressed to be at the bus stop at 7:50am to get to work by 8:30am. Wednesday night service, Friday night Youth Fellowship, some Saturday events and church on Sunday. It can be a lot sometimes. And with all that, I have to find time to prioritize my relationship with God; prayer and bible study. After all, I know my awesome marriage and beautiful daughter would not exist without God’s favor.
My marriage is 6 years strong. Through the years of friendship, dating and marriage, I’ve learned what the bible describes as “becoming one.” Mark 10:8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh (NIV). It’s a consistent process to be on the same page while life throws its challenges at you. Divorce rates are high- even in the “Church.” By God’s grace, I will not be one of them. To ensure this, my guiding principles are to put God first and to guard my marriage. I am hyper sensitive to anything that can take away from quality time and connection with my husband. We both support each other’s individual endeavors but my first ministry is to my family and to have our life be an example of God’s love.
Likewise, as a mother, I’ve been blessed with the responsibility to love and train another generation. Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from Him (Psalm 127:3, NLT). Having children was never a guarantee but once we decided to try we couldn’t imagine life without our daughter. Being a parent has added a whole new dimension to understanding how God loves us and the capacity we have to love others. In addition, having a child changes everything! Another little life (mind, body and soul) to take care of on top of all my other responsibilities. As my best friend once told me “Life is a constant game of balancing and re-balancing.” But, with Prayer and a grateful heart I’m able to conquer it all.
Kajette lives in Rhode Island with her husband Joe and toddler daughter Lydia. A self-professed “Church Girl” Pentecostal Christian. She’s and art historian and native New Yorker. She loves trap gospel music, art and her husband’s cooking.

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5 things I loved about Kerry Washington and her baby bump on the Red Emmy Carpet



1. Rock out with your bump out.

Chile, did you see the little peak-a-boo slits on the side. That right there was so sexy and gave me life. Show a little skin and give the baby bean a little shine. You can never go wrong with a 2-piece (kinda) while pregnant if you have a good belly for it (of course).

  1. That fro.

Her hair was flawless. Her big fro made it easy to cover her shoulders, not be too revealing and just incase she got hot and bothered, her hair would definitely cover up and absorb any sweat… you know a pregnant girl gets hot and bothered really quick.

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School Daze

Always looking for a fun way for my son to go to daycare and rep his cool kid persona. He’s a pretty tall kid, so his pants become short quickly and turn into high-waters after a couple wears; here’s a cool way to show off that look! Capri style pants are definitely in. Cuff those pants/ roll them up and rock them with skippy loafer style boat shoes. We also matched Kaiden’s personalized birthday themed onesie from with this outfit. Check out my cool kid!

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RIP to my perfect breast- National Breastfeeding Week

I was in the locker room at the gym after a killer workout and I felt so great about myself… until I saw her round, perfect, very perky breast. At that moment, my whole body just shut down and I felt defeated. I instantly had a feeling of grave depression… what happened to mine [perky breast]? Where did they go?

I started to day dream of my young tenderoni days when I went braless; when I had the option of bra or no bra. I never had really big breast growing up, but they weren’t small either. My chest was proportionally just the right size for my body. I didn’t develop too early but I still remember the day I got my first training bra and I was through the roof! I think I was going into junior high from 4th-5th grade and it was senior day or a class trip and I was comparing my chest size with the other girls on the school bus and we were all gleaming with pride as we were all moving up to the level of a brassiere. I remember thinking this was such a huge deal going from those thin cut Haines bras to an actual training bra! Go me! I proudly showing them the ruffles and how my bra clasp and closed in the back. I even showed off be pretty flowered patterns and the structure and wiring in my “bra”. Even the term rolled off my tongue. “I’m moving into a bra now”. Through the years, i was a B/C cup as my body frame remained sleek and slender. Throughout college I began eating all the great cafeteria foods and I began to really coming into womanhood and I steadily remained at a 36C. Then pregnancy happened, the weight gain naturally accompanied my pregnancy and my dreams were shattered of ever going braless again (unless I opt for surgery). During my pregnancy I went to target to get a new bra and I remember needing a 40D/DD; I flatlined.

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Brokenhearted mom


This is the only place I can post stuff that he won’t see and I can have a dialect pertaining to whatever. So with that said.

I have been seeing and reading some of the ladies pre valentine day extravaganzas. I love to see when the significant other put time and thought into making you happy. Or just making you smile…… Now this also brings me sadness. I look in the mirror everyday, And I know I’m worth it. I want to be someone’s valentine or even that special someone. I’m not single and haven’t been for years. But I don’t feel like I’m special to anyone.
What sense does it make to be surrounded by people that like you, but don’t know you enough to love. While the person that knows you enough to love you act like they don’t like you….. – brokenhearted mom

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“I have a dream”- Martin Luther King Jr.


“I still have a dream; deeply routed in the American dream”, is a quote from the famous “I have a dream” speech by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. on August 28, 1963. This race relation speech is a staple of words that can be used as a measuring tool of sorts to gage in 2016 if we have advanced within our race war from the 60s to now. Unfortunately, things seem to have digressed oppose to getting better. As I watched “The View” today on my given day off to celebrate Martin Luther King Jr., it was reported in 2010, 76% of Americans felt as if race relations were becoming more equal in America and in 2016 only 34% found that statement to be true. How sad is it, that as time evolves, we as a people, American people, have reverted back to a slave mentality. Where did we go wrong? Why are things going backwards opposed to forward?

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The year of the Do’ers! Happy 2-0-1-6


Tips for a Successful 2016!

So of course like a birthday, the New Year signifies a milestone in which you can look back, reflect, get mad, start over, and redo what hasn’t been done the year before. You see all these post of New Year, New ME; followed by a ton of naysayers and people who predict that you will give up and forget your yearly goals after the 5th day in the year. Even though, this is common practice and many don’t follow through with their New Year, New ME, new resolution mentality, we are here to share some key tips on how you can have a successful 2016.

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Lackadaisical Mommy

120309002_Booth_Woo_376192cAnyone else lackadaisical moms like me? So this morning I got up bright and early… sick as ever… laid in bed coughing up my lungs and kidney, suffering from the flu, knowing good dag on well I should of gotten the flu shot, and finally decided to roll out of bed at 830am. So I crawl and got myself ready and then my son Kaiden. As I got to the daycare, only 2 minutes away from my house…. things looked a bit strange. The lights were off… Christmas tree lights out… no kids in sight… back door closed…. no toys scattered across the yard. I began the frantically call my day care provider… no answer… then it dawned on me… I immediately contacted a parent I had as a facebook friend and she informed me the DAY CARE IS CLOSED TILL JAN.4th. I was shocked. No one told me… well not verbally anyway (Kanye shrug). You know those notices they put in your kid’s bag pack and it says, “URGENT PLEASE READ”, the notice I threw to the side and said whatever ill read it later… yea that paper, that notice, that important piece of information. What an oversight. I must get my life right in 2016. What will I do when my little guy starts school in 2 years? I need to get it together. I have no idea how to be a functioning parent (says this sarcastically). I lied when I said I could do it all. SHEESH! –unorganized parent

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Father-Son beef? Whats beef?

shaniqua-tompkins-reveals-dirty-secrets-about-50-cents-alleged-abusive-pastWhen you google 50 Cent son beef, a slew of headline appear, “50 Cent threatens to shoot his son on Instagram” “50 Cent disowns his son in alleged brutal text exchange” “Rapper Calls 16-Year-Old Son ‘F*Cking Crazy, Stupid, Little A**Hole” and the list continues. I am disheartened by the headlines that expose such a strained relationship between a son, his mother, and his father. I am a big fan of Curtis Jackson, fitty, 50 Cent, the Queens born native who has what seems like a nothing to something success story, but it confused me why Iyanla or Dr.Phil or damn it even Oprah hasn’t stepped in to help mend this messy ass situation that seems to have been going on for years now. I love a good success story of a person that has made it from the bottom and now they are on top… but to what expense? 50 has a hit series on TV, he’s stared in reputable movies and he has a very successful rap career, but to me the one job that you should be doing the best at… you seem to be doing the worse? I hate that as an adult he is publicly going back and forth with his son and his son’s mother. It’s deplorable and disgusts me as a woman and mother to see. In my head (of course none of my opinion really matters, because its only that… my opinion), the perception I have of Curtis James Jackson III is this cocky, New York, street dude who curses you out and spits on you if he doesnt successfully get your number as hes standing at the bodega with his boys and you are walking past… and he also seems like he has the personality of that sweet guy that would buy you door knocker earrings with your names sprawled out in diamonds with a matching Chanel bag with a note inside that said, “If I got locked up and sentenced to a quarter century, could I count on you to be there supporting me mentally?” My kinda guy lol (Ready to die was MY SH%T! (50 Cent debut album))”, but he’s really tripping and I am at lost to why hes handling this situation with his son so poorly. I can’t imagine his sons hurt seeing how he boastfully flaunts his new son all over his Instagram page and having him grow up with his dad being this active “good dad” role… how hurtful for his eldest son, Marquise Jackson. Of course I don’t know the back story and of course I have no idea what role Marquise’s mom plays in 50 not having a relationship with his son, but his son is now a young adult, if Curtis wants to foster and build a relationship with this young man, he can. It just really bothers me to see this get played out publicly and having him “diss” his son repeatedly. I’m sure his son’s “I don’t care” attitude just shows hurt and embarrassment he really is.  It’s sick… and I just worry about what kind of man his son and father his son will become. This is a young man that wasnt loved by his father, one that was publicly ridiculed by the one person I am sure hes always wanted approval from, one that gave him the face he wears. I’m not sure what I want from 50. This is the person that allegedly, the news or blogs (same difference), reported that he burned down his house that his baby mother lived in because she wouldn’t willingly leave the home, why do I expect more from this man… I still do though. The situation is sad and I just hope that we as parents start to look at some of the damage we are doing to our kids. We are adults and need to look at the bigger picture and put our pride and ego’s aside. Looks like the son, his mother and 50 have so much built up animosity from this strained long going tumultuous fight… but who will be the bigger person to repair this relationship? Anyone? 50 continues to blame his son’s mother for this disconnect with his son and then tells media outlets he wants to focus on his relationship with his second son, since he has none with his first. Is it me, or does this seem asinine and destructive either way… you’re still not getting into heaven bruh, its still wrong; just sharing my thoughts. What do you think about this rocky, father-son relationship? Check out more at 2016 im trying to write more. back to basics.

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