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Stay at home vs Working mom- War of the MOMS!

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There is much controversy surrounding the debate of a stay at home mom versus a mother that works. Which one is better for the child?

In my opinion neither trumps the other. I am however biased to one scenario more Than the next.

The life of a mother that works outside the home is very different than a mom who stays at home although both women’s priority are her children. The working mom spends most of her day out of the home making sure financially that her offspring is taken care. She also lends her emotional support and live as much as she can without physically being there. A stay at home mother is always there she sees it all she is able to give more of herself simply because her time is spent within the home. She has more time to to talk to the children she has more time to teach the children and she also gives them an indepth look into who she is as a person. A working mom strives to do these same things and she does in some ways it’s just that she has less time to do those same things which in turn can take away from what her children experience through her and with her. The working mom has many advantages if you can call it that. She has more financial freedom to support her children and her household, while a stay at home mom might not have those same freedoms. I think that most women would choose to be at home with their children if they could. But the way society is set up and the dynamics of her family structure she is forced to tak on the role of her husband and help provide. In turn who raises the children. Is the television their teachers or is it the internet but whoever raises her children in her absence. Is who wins a hand in their future. Though stay at home mothers may lack financial freedom at least she is given a chance to be present. Time is the one thing we can’t get back. It is expensive gift. Both the working mother and the stay at home mom have the same intentions and priorities when it comes to their kids..but both execute those intentions differently because of their circumstances.

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Love, Marriage and Motherhood: A Church Girl’s Perspective

I luh God, my husband and my baby girl; in that order. There is no questioning my love for all three. My world is God and Family. Sometimes, though, it can be challenging to juggle my responsibilities as a wife, mother, church leader and my full time job. Every morning I get up at 6am to get my daughter and husband ready to get out the door by 7:15am then get myself dressed to be at the bus stop at 7:50am to get to work by 8:30am. Wednesday night service, Friday night Youth Fellowship, some Saturday events and church on Sunday. It can be a lot sometimes. And with all that, I have to find time to prioritize my relationship with God; prayer and bible study. After all, I know my awesome marriage and beautiful daughter would not exist without God’s favor.
My marriage is 6 years strong. Through the years of friendship, dating and marriage, I’ve learned what the bible describes as “becoming one.” Mark 10:8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh (NIV). It’s a consistent process to be on the same page while life throws its challenges at you. Divorce rates are high- even in the “Church.” By God’s grace, I will not be one of them. To ensure this, my guiding principles are to put God first and to guard my marriage. I am hyper sensitive to anything that can take away from quality time and connection with my husband. We both support each other’s individual endeavors but my first ministry is to my family and to have our life be an example of God’s love.
Likewise, as a mother, I’ve been blessed with the responsibility to love and train another generation. Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from Him (Psalm 127:3, NLT). Having children was never a guarantee but once we decided to try we couldn’t imagine life without our daughter. Being a parent has added a whole new dimension to understanding how God loves us and the capacity we have to love others. In addition, having a child changes everything! Another little life (mind, body and soul) to take care of on top of all my other responsibilities. As my best friend once told me “Life is a constant game of balancing and re-balancing.” But, with Prayer and a grateful heart I’m able to conquer it all.
Kajette lives in Rhode Island with her husband Joe and toddler daughter Lydia. A self-professed “Church Girl” Pentecostal Christian. She’s and art historian and native New Yorker. She loves trap gospel music, art and her husband’s cooking.

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5 things I loved about Kerry Washington and her baby bump on the Red Emmy Carpet

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PHOTO: TODD WILLIAMSON/GETTY IMAGES.

1. Rock out with your bump out.

Chile, did you see the little peak-a-boo slits on the side. That right there was so sexy and gave me life. Show a little skin and give the baby bean a little shine. You can never go wrong with a 2-piece (kinda) while pregnant if you have a good belly for it (of course).

  1. That fro.

Her hair was flawless. Her big fro made it easy to cover her shoulders, not be too revealing and just incase she got hot and bothered, her hair would definitely cover up and absorb any sweat… you know a pregnant girl gets hot and bothered really quick.

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Who cares about your kid’s 1st day?

As kids head back to school this week, its always fun to get them dressed up, no matter their age. We get them all dolled up to send them off to daycare, pre school, elementary, high school and dare I even say college? lol.

Our facebook timelines are flooded with blushing moms and dads raving about their kids new bag packs, fresh cuts, new sneaks, hair do’s and even a new car as some of the older kids get driving privileges. It’s fun to see when you have kids, but what about the one’s who don’t?

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School Daze

Always looking for a fun way for my son to go to daycare and rep his cool kid persona. He’s a pretty tall kid, so his pants become short quickly and turn into high-waters after a couple wears; here’s a cool way to show off that look! Capri style pants are definitely in. Cuff those pants/ roll them up and rock them with skippy loafer style boat shoes. We also matched Kaiden’s personalized birthday themed onesie from http://www.lilinash.com with this outfit. Check out my cool kid!

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I am a Bad Mom

“Do NOT jump off that couch Kaiden, you will hurt yourself.” I said to my growing dare devil 2, almost 3 year old son. I looked away for a split second to grab my laptop off the coffee table and I hear a heavy 30lb thump hitting the floor and landing on his arm. The tears start (his and mine), and this cry sounded different. This cry doesn’t sound like a “I hurt myself a little” cry, this cry sounds like an excruciating, I broke something cry. We scoop him up as fast as we could, rush out the door; he has no shoes on, no shorts and we are off to the ER. The nurses know us here. Kaiden, are you back, AGAIN?!?!? They doctor gives me a look, as if to say, WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON AT HOME? Am I really a “Bad Mom?”

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Dad in the Spotlight: Floyd Potts aka DJ King Sleepy

13436088_10110954966361484_41189018_nBorn in 1981 in Marysville California Floyd Dj King Sleepy Potts was born. Through his childhood he moved to Brooklyn NY. He got a basketball scholarship to L.I.U and later played pro ball. In 1994 Floyd developed a new love for music. He began his journey as being a professional DJ and after all his hard work & dedication things picked up in 2004. Floyd loves to reach and touch people through his music. He plays ALL genres and caters to a great diversity. One of Floyd’s favorite crowd to play for is children. This is because Floyd is a father himself.

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Dad in the Spotlight: Kemar Rodd!!

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Kemar Rodd is a nurse that cares for the mentality challenged, so by nature, he is a loving guy. Years ago when he found out he was having his son, I saw something change in him. He not only heightened his love and care, but he also increased his responsibility factor.

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At one point Kemar was faced with not being able to see his son and it was a rough battle. This man never gave up. He fought to the nail, hired attorney’s he couldn’t afford and made sure this was not an outcome in which he lost the ability to see, raise and interact with the one person he loved the most.

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Life without parole sentences for children

can-stock-photo_csp27253270Today’s one of those days where I want to be a fake journalist and write about the less mommy stuff (baby cutesy wootsey stuff) and write about the MOM stuff (raising a growing boy who will becoming a teenager whether I like it or not). Last night I was watching the discovery channel and it featured an old case (I caught it in the middle and I didn’t take notes because I had no idea this topic would still be at the forefront of my thoughts and I would be blogging about it today) and it featured a young African American man, now in his 20’s who has been incarcerated for about 12 years for a crime he committed when he was a juvenile. He was sentenced to life without parole and this was an appeals hearing to have the “without parole” portion removed off his sentence. From my understanding (I am no where near a lawyer or legal buff so please forgive me) he will never be eligible for parole and will more than likely die in prison.

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5 tips to help reduce chaos.

balance-beam-with-a-frame-300x240I once had my “dream job” in which I thought I loved so much until I felt like I was doing a lousy job in my professional life and in my personal life; i literally felt like I was drowning. I remember frantically calling my virtual therapist (the sweetest family therapist friend I met a couple years ago on a flight back to America from Jamaica) and she asked, how would you rate yourself as a mom? I responded, “A 4”. She then said in your current job, what grade from 1-10? I responded, “A 3”. To the average folk from the outside looking in, I am sure they would say, “NO WAY KALILAH, how is that at all possible?, you are probably being too hard on yourself. They may be right, but at that moment and even now, I felt terrible and I felt like I was going under water fast and I needed to find that balance.

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