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Stay at home vs Working mom- War of the MOMS!

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There is much controversy surrounding the debate of a stay at home mom versus a mother that works. Which one is better for the child?

In my opinion neither trumps the other. I am however biased to one scenario more Than the next.

The life of a mother that works outside the home is very different than a mom who stays at home although both women’s priority are her children. The working mom spends most of her day out of the home making sure financially that her offspring is taken care. She also lends her emotional support and live as much as she can without physically being there. A stay at home mother is always there she sees it all she is able to give more of herself simply because her time is spent within the home. She has more time to to talk to the children she has more time to teach the children and she also gives them an indepth look into who she is as a person. A working mom strives to do these same things and she does in some ways it’s just that she has less time to do those same things which in turn can take away from what her children experience through her and with her. The working mom has many advantages if you can call it that. She has more financial freedom to support her children and her household, while a stay at home mom might not have those same freedoms. I think that most women would choose to be at home with their children if they could. But the way society is set up and the dynamics of her family structure she is forced to tak on the role of her husband and help provide. In turn who raises the children. Is the television their teachers or is it the internet but whoever raises her children in her absence. Is who wins a hand in their future. Though stay at home mothers may lack financial freedom at least she is given a chance to be present. Time is the one thing we can’t get back. It is expensive gift. Both the working mother and the stay at home mom have the same intentions and priorities when it comes to their kids..but both execute those intentions differently because of their circumstances.

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How many kids is too many? RIP SHAWTY LO

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In wake of famed ATL Rapper Shawty Lo’s passing (RIP), as sad as death is, I couldn’t help but wonder about his 11 children by 9 mothers that he leaves behind. Now the reason I bring up the kids and their mothers is this.. how much is too much?

When I was single and playing the field, finding men in my age bracket who didn’t have kids was hard. At least for me, I should say. I love kids and kids never was a deal breaker for me depending on how much children he had. When I was a little tenderoni, men with children was NOT for me. I avoided them like the plague. Until I met a man who had three and that mindset went out the door. Though it was only two mothers I had to deal with, I can’t help but wonder if I could deal with 9. We all know how some women can be, whether she hates her child/ren father, she still wants him or she just wants to make his life and the woman or women after her lives a living hell.

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BABY BOWLING- Weekend Fun

As the summer come to an end and as kiddies get back to school, its time for us to indulge in some fun indoors activities. As the weather begins to transition, what are some fun activities you recommend?

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I never thought about mini baby bowling. My soror and mommy friend celebrated her son’s birthday at a kiddie bowling alley and I LOVED IT. The kids had a blast. I was a little worried about the heavy balls, but they seem to really enjoy it and got the hang of it. It was the cutest thing alive but it was something out the norm and a great idea for kids around 2+.

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Love, Marriage and Motherhood: A Church Girl’s Perspective

I luh God, my husband and my baby girl; in that order. There is no questioning my love for all three. My world is God and Family. Sometimes, though, it can be challenging to juggle my responsibilities as a wife, mother, church leader and my full time job. Every morning I get up at 6am to get my daughter and husband ready to get out the door by 7:15am then get myself dressed to be at the bus stop at 7:50am to get to work by 8:30am. Wednesday night service, Friday night Youth Fellowship, some Saturday events and church on Sunday. It can be a lot sometimes. And with all that, I have to find time to prioritize my relationship with God; prayer and bible study. After all, I know my awesome marriage and beautiful daughter would not exist without God’s favor.
My marriage is 6 years strong. Through the years of friendship, dating and marriage, I’ve learned what the bible describes as “becoming one.” Mark 10:8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh (NIV). It’s a consistent process to be on the same page while life throws its challenges at you. Divorce rates are high- even in the “Church.” By God’s grace, I will not be one of them. To ensure this, my guiding principles are to put God first and to guard my marriage. I am hyper sensitive to anything that can take away from quality time and connection with my husband. We both support each other’s individual endeavors but my first ministry is to my family and to have our life be an example of God’s love.
Likewise, as a mother, I’ve been blessed with the responsibility to love and train another generation. Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from Him (Psalm 127:3, NLT). Having children was never a guarantee but once we decided to try we couldn’t imagine life without our daughter. Being a parent has added a whole new dimension to understanding how God loves us and the capacity we have to love others. In addition, having a child changes everything! Another little life (mind, body and soul) to take care of on top of all my other responsibilities. As my best friend once told me “Life is a constant game of balancing and re-balancing.” But, with Prayer and a grateful heart I’m able to conquer it all.
Kajette lives in Rhode Island with her husband Joe and toddler daughter Lydia. A self-professed “Church Girl” Pentecostal Christian. She’s and art historian and native New Yorker. She loves trap gospel music, art and her husband’s cooking.

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Enough is Enough. Death to the pampers Gods.

I spend roughly $50 a month on diapers and wipes; that’s $600 a year and almost $2,000 in the 3 years my son has been alive. AINT NO BODY GOT TIME for this diaper shit… at all.

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As I bought a pack of pull-ups last week, I SAID ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. I told myself after this pack, NO MORE. I am a full time entrepreneur and extremely busy, but my pockets can longer sustain this “diaper life”. I remember at my baby shower someone bought a size 5 pamper and I said, “the hell my baby will not be still in pampers at this age….” Yup, I’m rolling my eyes too, it’s time. Not because society says its time, but because my wallet says its time. Plus I think, finally, my son is truly ready. Remember a couple months ago when I first introduced potty training and I told you guys about my experience. Yip, that time. Ya’ll remember the pic of real housewives, Kandi Burrus attempting (and joking I hope) to potty train her four month old son training-pngTHAT NEEDED TO BE ME. I should have started him on the potty a long time ago. We’ve had two weeks strong where he is actually going and telling me every time he has to go. We’ve only had one mishap where he had to go and we were at the supermarket and we could not use the restroom. Here are some tips I recommend to help these little critters train on the potty.

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Who cares about your kid’s 1st day?

As kids head back to school this week, its always fun to get them dressed up, no matter their age. We get them all dolled up to send them off to daycare, pre school, elementary, high school and dare I even say college? lol.

Our facebook timelines are flooded with blushing moms and dads raving about their kids new bag packs, fresh cuts, new sneaks, hair do’s and even a new car as some of the older kids get driving privileges. It’s fun to see when you have kids, but what about the one’s who don’t?

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School Daze

Always looking for a fun way for my son to go to daycare and rep his cool kid persona. He’s a pretty tall kid, so his pants become short quickly and turn into high-waters after a couple wears; here’s a cool way to show off that look! Capri style pants are definitely in. Cuff those pants/ roll them up and rock them with skippy loafer style boat shoes. We also matched Kaiden’s personalized birthday themed onesie from http://www.lilinash.com with this outfit. Check out my cool kid!

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RIP to my perfect breast- National Breastfeeding Week

I was in the locker room at the gym after a killer workout and I felt so great about myself… until I saw her round, perfect, very perky breast. At that moment, my whole body just shut down and I felt defeated. I instantly had a feeling of grave depression… what happened to mine [perky breast]? Where did they go?

I started to day dream of my young tenderoni days when I went braless; when I had the option of bra or no bra. I never had really big breast growing up, but they weren’t small either. My chest was proportionally just the right size for my body. I didn’t develop too early but I still remember the day I got my first training bra and I was through the roof! I think I was going into junior high from 4th-5th grade and it was senior day or a class trip and I was comparing my chest size with the other girls on the school bus and we were all gleaming with pride as we were all moving up to the level of a brassiere. I remember thinking this was such a huge deal going from those thin cut Haines bras to an actual training bra! Go me! I proudly showing them the ruffles and how my bra clasp and closed in the back. I even showed off be pretty flowered patterns and the structure and wiring in my “bra”. Even the term rolled off my tongue. “I’m moving into a bra now”. Through the years, i was a B/C cup as my body frame remained sleek and slender. Throughout college I began eating all the great cafeteria foods and I began to really coming into womanhood and I steadily remained at a 36C. Then pregnancy happened, the weight gain naturally accompanied my pregnancy and my dreams were shattered of ever going braless again (unless I opt for surgery). During my pregnancy I went to target to get a new bra and I remember needing a 40D/DD; I flatlined.

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I am a Bad Mom

“Do NOT jump off that couch Kaiden, you will hurt yourself.” I said to my growing dare devil 2, almost 3 year old son. I looked away for a split second to grab my laptop off the coffee table and I hear a heavy 30lb thump hitting the floor and landing on his arm. The tears start (his and mine), and this cry sounded different. This cry doesn’t sound like a “I hurt myself a little” cry, this cry sounds like an excruciating, I broke something cry. We scoop him up as fast as we could, rush out the door; he has no shoes on, no shorts and we are off to the ER. The nurses know us here. Kaiden, are you back, AGAIN?!?!? They doctor gives me a look, as if to say, WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON AT HOME? Am I really a “Bad Mom?”

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Dad in the Spotlight: Floyd Potts aka DJ King Sleepy

13436088_10110954966361484_41189018_nBorn in 1981 in Marysville California Floyd Dj King Sleepy Potts was born. Through his childhood he moved to Brooklyn NY. He got a basketball scholarship to L.I.U and later played pro ball. In 1994 Floyd developed a new love for music. He began his journey as being a professional DJ and after all his hard work & dedication things picked up in 2004. Floyd loves to reach and touch people through his music. He plays ALL genres and caters to a great diversity. One of Floyd’s favorite crowd to play for is children. This is because Floyd is a father himself.

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